I don't know who created this saying, but people have really fed into it like the blind leading the blind to unhappy homes. A happy wife, happy life is just a portion of the truth of having a balanced and true happy homestead. While the woman gets showered with love, gifts, massages, words of encouragement, protection from her guy and society continuously telling men to spoil his woman has reached a point of extreme craziness, to a point of utter disrespect to men.
Nowadays women demand that a man pay for her nails to get done before they go on their first date, she demands to eat at particular restaurants that she doesn't frequent on her own, withholds sex and uses it as punishment towards her guy and some have the gull to go out and cheat! Others downgrade their men and compare them to other guys she deems that has it all together. Let me make this totally clear, just because a man has a lot of money doesn't mean he has it all together. He may have the money, but he could be a verbal and physical abuser, manipulator, control freak, serial cheater and disease carrier. Just ask some of the women who have been put through this negative ringer seeking love through money and lifestyle.
Nothing about these kinds of negative behaviors lead to happy homes. This looks like control and disrespectful treatment to someone who loves or is trying to love their woman. God's gift to a man is peace of mind! That peace is to come from his woman. In order to have a happy home there has to be a balance of love and care in the home. A man needs words of encouragement from the one true person who claims to love him the most (His Woman)! A man should receive stress relieving massages, gifts, great healthy meals because a true nurturing woman knows that he needs that positive energy for thinking, creating, solving issues in and outside of the home that also should be shared by his woman and also knows that with positive energy being poured into him he can also stroke that sexual fire his woman oh so desires. You know that sexual experience that brings a smile to your face, a shiver within your legs, a warmth to your heart and with the knowledge of if I take care of my man, he will also take care of me! Ya dig? It's give and take in relationships. We each give love and support and we each receive love and support. The saying should be "Happy spouse, happy house"! Only the intelligent, non-selfish, caring and true nurturers will understand this.
Relationships are not run by women; it's an equal commitment to bring joy to one another in which brings joy into the household. As time goes on those seeking wisdom will find out that a lot of old sayings and actions were wrong and was created as a tool to divide the two sexes!
Men taking care of their physical houses like manicure (No polish), pedicure (No polish), facials, massages were considered metrosexual by those who had no clue of what taking care of your total self-meant. You take care of yourself, then you live longer. If women helped with yard work or did anything that was considered a man's responsibility was frowned upon by other women. They said that was for the men. It could be looked upon as gaining knowledge of something as well as knowing what your man has to go through with some of the tasks, knowing what he is doing could bring a little more compassion and understanding of how hard or tedious something is. It's not 50/50, it's just supporting each other in love. If we take care of each other, we will be less stressed.
No one person in the home should be stressed out about bills, repairs, children, sex or anything within the home. You have to want your spouse to be happy. You have to know it's not all about you. If you believe it is all about you then you should be single and remain single until you get a grip on life, sharing and what it means to love someone other than yourself. Don't bring that negative energy into someone's life. Make time for your loved ones and stop spending every weekend out with your girls or your guy's. That can and will bring issues into your home. Do not neglect your spouse on any level. Some women believe that because they are physically fine the man isn't going anywhere. If you don't have common or good sense to match that body you will find yourself alone. This also holds true to the men that believe they got it going on as well.
Keep the fire burning between you two! You went all out to be with that someone you love so continue to be that person. Don't do things to capture them and then get comfortable and stray away from those things, if nothing else be more creative don't lie to yourself or your spouse and continue to stay on the positive journey of love and commitment to each other and God! Stop listening to the streets, that is what has gotten a lot of you single in the first place. Misery loves company! Keep your business in the house.
There is hope, but remember happiness is in your home. Stop comparing your relationships to others. Some paint a wonderful picture and in reality, it isn't that wonderful! Do what is right and feels good in your home. HAPPY HOUSE, HAPPY SPOUSE! That's it that's all! If you want your man to spoil you then spoil him too!
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